September 6, 2017

The STAR Family

What does it mean to be a part of the family with STAR?

Most of us live far away from our family or have been disenfranchised by them because of skeptical, freethinking, or atheist views. This is very common in groups like ours so we need to create our own family. As human beings, we are naturally socially dependent. We need to feel validated, heard, understood, and supported. That’s what family usually does for us. That’s why community is so important. The times you want to go out and celebrate and laugh and dance with your friends or sit and have a few drinks and cry over being fired, these things need to be processed and you need perspective from people who know you best. This should not be done alone. You need people to check on you from time to time to let you know you are being thought about, missed, and valued. This is one example of what the STAR family means to me. There are more but this is the story about the first time I felt I had found my home.

My husband and I met Jed and Vicki Gettman at an event with another group at a meetup. We hit it off, thought Jed was hilarious (and still is) and Vicki was easy to talk to as well as welcoming to us. It was our first time coming out and talking to other people since we had decided we were ready to label ourselves as Atheists. We had been for many years but never told another person, since many of our blood family are all religious to some degree. We didn’t know what to expect, but we decided we would take a cautious approach. Within a few weeks, we were invited to a few events, and then game night at their house.  Everyone welcomed us and  we felt very comfortable. Once we left, we said, these are our kind of people. We enjoyed getting to know everyone and becoming closer with them at each event over the next few months.

A few months later, I was told that I needed surgery. It was a major one that was going to put me in recovery for six weeks. We have family here and close by but they had jobs and couldn’t afford to take off work. My husband, Jerry would be there but I was concerned for him. I knew I would be cared for in the hospital. A few days before the surgery, I got a message from Vicki. She said, “what can I do for you”? I said, “Can someone please be there for Jerry”? She said, “Consider it done”! I didn’t know how she would do it or who would be there, but I believed her. The next morning, Jerry and I went to the hospital at 6am to prep for surgery at 8am. The next thing I knew, I’m heading back to surgery.  When I was taken to my room, Jerry and Chad were there. I thought, oh that’s nice, Vicki sent Chad to be with him. Jerry said, “No, Vicki and Jed were here too until just a few minutes ago.” I couldn’t believe it. And Chad stayed until they got me settled in the room around 4pm.

Later that night, I was messaging her to thank her. She asked what else she could do. I asked if she could come back the next day to give Jerry time to go home and sleep. He normally works nights and this was messing with his sleep cycle. She said, “No problem!” She was there around 8am and didn’t leave until around 8pm that night when I was discharged. She made sure I was getting rest and reaching the goals the doctor set for me to be able to go home. She kept me company and only left my side once, to get herself some lunch. She and I had not known each other very long but she went out of her way to be there for me. She even helped me get dressed! And the next few days, she checked on me and brought me a smoothie! That is what I mean by family.

There are many other examples that other members can share about Vicki and other members of the group who are just as loving and giving. In the past year, the more than 40 people in our circle, we have had several child births, pet deaths, job changes, family crisis, desperate need for child care and even emotional breakdowns. The fact that I know, no matter what I go through, STAR, my people, will be there for me and I will do everything I can for them in return.  This is fulfilling the basic human needs to belong, feel validated, respected and accepted. We have learned our strengths and weaknesses through the many hours of community service and social events are feel safe to be ourselves without judgement. We aren’t perfect, we aren’t superheros, but we try to be. We don’t judge parenting styles, household cleanliness, or personal finances. We only do our best to be there for each other and build our relationships through our efforts to help others. We praise each other’s talents, support each others families, and we hug, a lot!

If this is something that you feel you want to be a part of, please join us, the more of us there are, the stronger we are together.


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March 25, 2017

STAR 2017 News and Events

Hello fellow heathens.  It has been a while since we have updated our blog but we are all getting back in the swing of things after a very busy holiday season. Its time for Spring and Summer events and we have lots planned. But first, we have a few announcements for you.


There is now an app you can download to keep up with all of the South Texas Atheists for Reason events, we are honored to be added to the UnitedCor events app. Take a moment and download it now and never be without knowing what is going on with the latest events. We are posting all of our events as soon as we can and giving as much detail as possible so you can plan your week and month ahead. We hope this will mean more of you can attend!



We are also going to add a few new things like Coffee night and Ladies Night. If  you have an idea for a different type of event, please let us know on our Facebook Group or page and we can discuss with the board.


We are part of several programs in the San Antonio Community. Our newest Director of Programs is Stephanie Bartlett. She is doing a great job getting everything scheduled and keeping everyone motivated for the next events. If there are any questions about our programs, please feel free to reach out to her at

You can check out more about our programs on the Get Involved  on the website. Each program has its own page and describes in detail what we do. If there is one or more program that you are interested in getting involved with, please let us know and we will be happy to discuss it more with you or answer any questions.


Learn more about our social events and let us know if you want to get involved with this year’s planning. We have a great Atheist Easter planned and many more summer events!

Social Events

We look forward to a great year ahead and hope to meet some new faces and families. For those who are a little shy or introverted, we get it. Really, we do. If you would rather meet 1 on 1, just send us a note and we can set up a time to get together and answer your questions.


Posted in: General
October 6, 2016

STAR in September 2016

Wow, what a great month! In September we had several donations and a raffle through Twisted Tattoo. We sponsored or attended 7 community service events and 6 social events. That was 13 chances for us to make a difference in each others lives.

We have grown into a community that can handle serving 700 plus trainees each weekend for this months total of 3,346, at the Helping the Homeless event, we helped at total of 101. We also served at the Food Bank helping them with their garden spot that serves the local community of 16 counties. We contribute time and effort to SARA and UIW for the beautification of the parks and wildlife around us. STAR’s Nebula group is creating our child focused groups to teach them about the world in a secular way.

We also take some time to blow off steam and have a great time together as friends and have a few drinks. We are making a difference within our STAR community and in the lives of those around us. Check out a few pictures of our events and come join us as soon as you can.

Lackland AFB – Atheists/Humanist Service – This was one of the largest groups so far. These are only the graduates but there were 924 in attendance on this day. September we had 3346 total in attendance. Not including the their families and friends that come on family weekends.

San Antonio Food Bank – Worked at the community garden to prepare it for planting.

Nebula – STAR kids 13 and under created a scarecrow for a contest at Rainbow Gardens at Thousand Oaks. Its Pokemon themed.

Atheist at Work – Homeless Giveaway had over 100 customers served personal items.

UIW – Clean Up – cleared out invasive plants from the trails.

Game Night at the Gettmans

Starry Night – We all met at LaGloria on a rainy evening. We had good food and great company, of course…and actress Rosie Perez was right behind us to the left of the picture.

We are also launching a new networking program and website in October. So many new opportunities are coming and we need your help.

Please help us keep it going by becoming a paid member, making a donation, or purchasing a t-shirt, sticker, or dog tag. Most of all, we request your participation in the events as we add new ones. We need people to help keep programs organized and all talents are appreciated. Let us know if you feel you can help with one event or many.

Have a great month! Hope to see you soon.

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